Your life… How does it make you feel?
Sluggish? Tired? Fed Up? Or unbelievably fucking fulfilled? Or somewhere in the middle?
Like I discussed in last week’s blog, we need to stop running from our feels, and instead embrace them and get curious about why we feel the way we do.
If things are going well in life, we are probably feeling pretty good. Negative emotions are just a (not so subtle) sign that something in our life needs to be changed. From there we figure out IF it can be changed, what action to take, or how in the eff we are going to accept something that’s driving us bonkers.
Speaking of things that are bonkers, why do we play it safe in life?
We’ve all been on the receiving end of a parent telling us to be safe, but we are grown ass adults now, and not taking chances because of some ridiculous fear that being imperfect will lead to not being loved. We fear failure, and rejection, so playing it safe in the pool of mediocrity feels comfortable…
And unfulfilling. And horrible. And boring.
Let’s just be real and honest for a second. Staying “safe” is detrimental to your happiness. Because we have basic human needs which involve variety and challenge. There is no sweeter feeling than overcoming some really tough shit.
The skies open, you do your victory dance and you feel fucking invincible. For a moment you are aware of your inner strength and that you can do difficult shit. It’s tough, but not as tough as you.
To motivate myself to get out of my comfort zone, I like to think of my death bed. Yup, my death bed.
I like to think of what I might feel looking back at my life from my death bed. Will I be proud, or disappointed? Will I feel I lived a rich life, or did I struggle? Did I leave it all out on the floor, or will I die with regrets a unfulfilled burning desires within me?
How would you feel in the same situation?
Better question: what would you be doing right now if you knew you couldn’t fail?
What legacy could you leave behind that will leave your future self proud AF?
If it’s a job, an achievement, a person you’re in love with, whatever it is — do it! And do it now.
Life is too goddam short and valuable to let fear dictate your fate.
All we have is right now. Our past doesn’t define us, what we do right now defines us.
It’s never too late to turn it all around, to start chasing those passions like a crazed maniac, to follow your heart courageously, to say hello to the cute girl at the coffee shop, to demand the raise you deserve, to wrap your arms around your hubby like you’re meeting him for the first time.
Passion is within us. But what holds us back is fear. Of losing something, of discomfort, of doing what you dreamt of and it not being good enough. These are all possibilities. And while the risk of failure is a reality, it is tiny compared to the guarantee of disappointment if we continue to live our 80+ years of life doing the bare minimum, letting our passion fade, and letting ourselves down by saying no to making our life a masterpiece.
Life is a trip. And you hold in your hands the map for your best life. One that gives you chills. One that sets your soul on fire. One that moves you so fucking deeply. So stop settling and take what’s yours.
Your happily ever after is out there waiting for you to get bold and brave.
What will you do today to make it a reality?
Sending love & light,