There was a time and place where I truly gave a fuck. And this bad habit interfered with everything I ever wanted in life. My desperate need for approval and acceptance turned me into a people-pleaser. I’d hustle daily trying to impress people. I’d sell myself out constantly for that momentary “hit” of external recognition. I was hungry for love because I couldn’t give it to myself at that time.
But this is not the case today. Today my field of fucks is barren, and I want to share with you how yours can be too. The moment you can liberate yourself from this need of pleasing everyone but yourself, the sooner you can create a life that is magical, authentic, and hella fulfilling. Here’s a few things to consider:
People Will Judge You No Matter What You Do, And It Doesn’t Matter
Many of us try to fly under the radar, doing things that will attract the least amount of negative attention. But I’ve got news for you: whether you play by the rules or not, people will still judge you. And it doesn’t matter. It’s impossible to please everyone, so why not focus on pleasing yourself instead? And let the dust settle where it may.
Life Only Has to Make Sense To One Person
People don’t have to understand why you do things, so long as you understand. Follow your dreams, chase your passions, and do it unapologetically. Everyone gets to live their own life, they get to make their own choices, and luckily for people who may not approve of your life choices: they get to follow their own rules in their own lives. Win-win!
It Gets Easier Over Time
I remember the resistance I faced when I first started to live a life that made sense to me. My choices were met with a mountain of resistance from those around me. But over time, people began seeing that I was too stubborn to be convinced, and slowly stopped trying to influence me. Be patient and know that strength is built through resistance.
There Is No “Right Way” to Live
Despite what others may tell you, there is no right way to live your life. There is no “one size fits all” life plan, so why would we try fitting into a mould we don’t belong in? You do not need permission from anyone (myself included) to live the life of your dreams. The more we love and accept ourselves; the less we are concerned with the acceptance of others. Family, money and a good job may be a template for success or happiness, but it’s not the only template. Find what makes sense to you and do your damn thing, my love!
This blog isn’t about offending or hurting people, it’s about remembering that you’re a people too, and that you deserve your own love and support just as much as anyone else in your life. You deserve consideration. You deserved to be asked “what would make you happy today?” You deserve to feel comfortable in your skin, in your mind, and in your life.
That starts by giving less fucks about what other people think, and a lot more fucks about what matters most to you!
Stay weird and live like your happiness depends on it,