When we are having a good day, everyone knows it, it’s written all over our face, in the way we walk, and in the way we talk.
We are so open and honest about it. We embrace all those good feels and spread that shit like confetti.
But what about the tough days? The moods that are a little darker? Uncomfortable even. We see those feels coming and we run in the opposite direction. We cover that shit up with food, or get “white girl wasted” to avoid feeling anything at all.
Let’s just admit it, we’ve all taken some difficult feels, shoved them deep, deep down where we hope no one will ever find it. And when that pile of undesirable feels gets too big, we find a new place to internally stash them.
We will almost do anything to avoid sadness, anger, disappointment and anything else that takes us out of our precious little comfort zone.
I’m encouraging you to find that pile of shit, and dive in. Feel the feels. Especially the rough ones.
Because truth be told, the difficult emotions are the most valuable to our growth, our evolution, and our future. Emotions are just indicators of how life is settling with us. When things feel good, that means our needs have been met, we feel fulfilled, and we feel love.
When we are feeling like shit, it’s an indicator that something in our life must change. Maybe that’s a job you hate, a partner who is driving you nuts, or the simple fact that you do everything for everyone in your life except for yourself (yes, I’m talking to YOU!)
When we cover up our emotions by staying busy, getting drunk, eating an entire cheesecake, or by simply ignoring them by pretending all is well - we miss the call to action that would help avoid these uncomfy feels the next time around.
Within every shitty mood comes a valuable treasure that could ultimately transform your life. If you’re not doing your best to avoid it, of course.
When we can get curious about our “negative” emotions, rather than avoiding them, we can begin to identify the cause for the pain. We can figure out if it’s something we can fix. If so, we can come up with a game plan. If not, we get to work on that rusty skill of accepting things we dislike.
Acceptance helps save us from having our entire day derailed. When we resist seeing issues, fixing issues, analyzing issues, and accepting issues; we get to keep them. Forever. In our subconscious mind.
Have you ever blown up over something so small because it was the sum of a million little things?
Yeah, that’s avoidable. But you’ve got to feel the feels and stop running from them.
Life is tough sometimes, but so are you.
This life is such a precious gift, and we often become so fixated on our convenience and preferences that we forget that life is always serving us, even if it doesn’t feel good. Life has a far greater plan for you than you could ever make up for yourself, so embrace the feels.
The good, the bad and the downright ugly. Embrace them all. For they all make up life.
The only people on this planet without issues are buried in a graveyard somewhere. Problems are life. They push us out of our comfort zone and reveal to us what we’re really made of. So roll up those sleeves and know that life is hard work. But it’s also the most incredibly rewarding experience we will ever have.
So make the most of it. All of it.
Sending love, light & all the feels,