To all the rebels out there who can’t be bothered to procreate, and to those who desperately try to convince them otherwise, this blog is for you.
As soon as I tell people I’m not planning on having kids, I am normally hit with a handful of statements, questions and warnings about the lifestyle I’m choosing.
I’ve decided it would be fun to bust a few of the baby myths I’ve been treated to over the past few years in hopes that it will help other non-parents know that it’s not just them, and hopefully to give a little insight to the super parents out there who simply can’t fathom why anyone would choose a life without babies.
Let me start this off by saying I am not against children, in fact, I was a child at one point in my life and I am forever grateful that my parents were much more willing to sacrifice than I am. What I am against if my schedule being compromised, my sleep being negatively affected and my bank balance being spent on diapers rather than healing crystals and vacations.
Some things I’m willing to sacrifice for, and others things I’d much sooner just avoid. Babies being one of them.
This week’s blog I will be focusing on the five words that drive my wild in the baby debate:
It’s different when it’s your own.
This is total bullshit because I am not interested in sacrificing my time, energy and resources to do a good job in parenting. And yes, while I will agree: if I were to get knocked up, I would become fused with hormones that would make me much more willing to do the inevitable (give up my entire life for a child) but this is not something I would ever sign up for.
The freedom I cherish, the finances I enjoy and the lifestyle that totally serves me would all be over if I were a parent. I’m sorry if that statement upsets you but it IS the truth. 100%. And for many that is a small price to pay for the adventure and legacy of raising a family. I can 100% understand where these family types are coming from, because I can see the beauty in parenting. But I also see the beauty in literally doing whatever I want the rest of my life with minimal stress, financial burden, and lack of time for my husband.
So while I will agree, there are plenty of reasons to have a baby —if you’re into that sort of thing— but having one because it might be different if it’s your own is NOT one of them.
We are not currently in a population crisis, so there is no pressure for anyone to make a baby. So I encourage everyone to take a moment to really ask themselves if this is a burning desire, or simply hot pressure from the people around you.
I believe life as a parent and a non-parent can be equally wonderful, and it all depends on what you’re passionate about.
If you feel incomplete without a baby, then it’s a no-brainer. But for those of you a little more like me, where it’s not a burning desire, and we could be just as happy without bambinos, then I say take your time and think it through.
I think the hardest I have ever adulted in my life was the moment I realized I wouldn’t handle the stress of a baby that well. That was the right call for me, my husband and my unborn babies who would have a sleep-deprived bitch as a mom.
Sending love, light & good vibes,