Have you ever had a hot mess moment?
A moment of self-reflection that didn’t feel so good?
A memory of something you did that was so NOT you, but you did it anyways?
Whether it’s flipping out over something, saying something you regret, or the simple act of self-sabotage when all you really want is to achieve your goals. And you just can’t understand why it’s happened.
Let me start by saying, pretty much anything you could ever regret in life, I’ve done.. Twice. So I’m well versed with the confusion and horror of recurring bad behaviour.
However, up until a few years ago I didn’t really understand wtf was going on.
I didn’t understand that our hot mess ways have to do with two totally conflicting parts of our brain, that are constantly in battle. Think the devil and the angel on your shoulders, but in your mind, and your crazy ass thinks that both voices are YOU, and even worse: that they are both legit advice givers. Yikes..
You see, the human part of our brain in a lazy bastard. It has zero interest in hard work, discomfort, or inconvenience. The moment it feels uncomfortable it says “no fucking way, I quit!” It tells you to eat the cookie, to tell that person off, and to quit as soon as anything gets too difficult. It’s the reason we give up, why we sabotage ourselves, and why we struggle when the going gets tough.
Now don’t get me wrong. This part of your brain isn’t a bad guy. It is legitimately trying to protect you. Our brain was never designed to make us happy or successful, it was created to help us SURVIVE. This is why we don’t focus on beauty in our lives, we are constantly looking for danger instead. This is why we focus on the shit. This is why we seem overwhelmed at times when things aren’t going our way, because we have listened to our human part of our brain, and deemed this condition unbearable.
In contrast we have our spiritual part of our brain. The enlightened being within that recognizes with each obstacle comes strength and wisdom. That each setback is but a set up for a comeback. That our spiritual squats, while uncomfortable and difficult, bring us spiritual booty gains beyond our wildest dreams.
Now that you understand the two parts of your brain, I’m sure you can understand the constant conflict between each side. One wants to be comfortable all the time, the other wants to grow, expand and evolve.
Which sounds most empowering to your life?
Yesterday you didn’t know better, so you listened to your human brain by default, as that is easier and it’s unfortunately the more habitual to think this way. To feel frustrated when you don’t get what you want, to resist discomfort and to give up at the first sign of a setback.
But now, you know better. So what will you do?
I am here to let you know that you have a choice. That you don’t have to believe every thought that pops up in your head. You can become the watcher of your thoughts and CHOOSE the ones that will be most empowering for you and your journey.
An enlightened mind doesn’t act like a hot mess, because it hears that crazy ass voice, with all it’s mad suggestions, and it tells that inner bitch to sit down and shut up. It doesn’t resent the suggestion, for it knows that it’s only doing it’s job, that it wants to keep us safe, but we know all to well that with risk comes reward.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.
Watch your thoughts, choose wisely, and live boldly.