What To Do With Anger

​We drink green tea. We meditate. But sometimes we wanna smack a bitch.
We may be spiritual beings, but we are also human beings, and being a human means sometimes we get downright pissed off.

​I’m here to tell you that it is A-Okay to get angry.

Anger is a totally natural emotion, and like all of life’s uncomfortable moments, it can totally serve us. If we let it. Anger is just a cue that something needs to change. It’s like a little poke to the ribs telling you “something here isn’t lining up to my expectations, my joy, or my idea of a good time.” That prompt can give us notice to change scenery, friends, and most definitely our outlook on the situation.

Unfortunately, many of us skip reflection and curiosity of anger, and we jump right into blaming, resentment or avoidance. We subconsciously jump on board the Hot Mess Express and come out with guns blazing. We don’t realize that there is a healthy alternative dealing with anger that won’t involve sticking your foot in your mouth once you simmer down.

Let’s start this revelation by stating the obvious: it’s natural to get angry. Some spiritual folk think that we shouldn’t be angry, and while I agree that resentment and staying in anger is not doing anyone any favours; anger is something everyone experiences on some level.

Think of a baby: that is the purest, most innocent and beautiful form of human on this planet, and they get fucking furious when shit doesn’t go their way. They’ll scream, cry and kick their way out of the fury so that everyone on the street knows about it. But once they’ve expressed it and had their needs met, they’re good again. A moment later they can be smiling ear to ear and lighting up the lives of all around them.

So what I’m suggesting is rather than avoiding anger (because we “should” be above it) or staying in anger for far too long, let’s find a healthy way to express that shit, then kick it to the curb and reclaim our amazing lives. 

Life is too short for resentment, so let that shit go. Your spouse may very well be an asshole, but they’re trying their best and so love them anyways. Resentment poisons us, not your perceived enemy. If you don’t want to forgive that special asshole in your life (first, check out this blog) then get back at them by living this day to the absolute fullest. By being happier than ever. It’ll feel great for you, and nothing is more annoying than a person who won’t stay down when you’re trying to eff with them.

Find a healthy outlet, like working out, meditating, belting out your favourite song or talking with a friend. 

Vent that nasty energy out of you ASAP, then replace it with gratitude, love and joy. Focus on all the blessings in your life. Because the only people without problems on this planet, live in the graveyard. So let’s be grateful for the good, the bad and the ugly in life. Sunshine all the time makes deserts, and we don’t want that shit. Let is rain, then dance in the rain, then laugh at the ridiculousness that is life. 

The shitty days simply provide contrast to our most lovely days, and as frustrating as this moment may feel, it probably won’t matter a year from now, so let’s move on, and focus on the good. 
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And if you’re ever having a hard time finding a reason to be grateful, check your pulse (then check yourself, before your wr-wr-wreak yourself!)

Sending love & light,
L.K.

A post shared by L.K. Elliott (@lk.elliott) on Feb 28, 2017 at 12:04pm PST