This year I want you to do something different: Love Yourself First.
Be your OWN Valentine. Shower yourself with love. Love yourself so hard.
Often we focus on everyone around us. “How can I love them better?” we ask ourselves, while completely ignoring our own needs and desires. Loving others is a fundamental part of living, it enriches our experiences and gives us a sense of contribution, but what about contributing to our own happiness every now and then too?
They call it being selfish, to think of one’s self before another. I call it being “self-full” because you’re filling yourself with love first. And you can’t afford NOT to do it. When you truly love yourself, and your heart is bursting at the fucking seams, that is when you will love others better than ever before. You’ll become a world-class lover, because you’ve been practising daily with yourself.
We can't give what we don’t have. How could I possibly show you true love when I don’t have a damn clue how to show myself? It’s like trying to speak a foreign love language I’m unfamiliar with.
We all want love. We yearn for unconditional love. To feel supported and accepted in our good days and bad. But how can we expect this from people when we can’t even give it to ourselves?
Now is the time we choose love for ourselves. Let’s cultivate a full-blown love affair of mass proportion with ourselves. Give yourself permission to love yourself exactly as you are, because no one is perfect, and no one is more deserving of our love than us.
Scream it from the rooftops, or quietly in your mind:
“Me: exactly as I am, I love that shit.” (and mean it)
“I am good enough on my worst day” (because you are)
“I am my own biggest fan” (and be it)
Stop worrying about whether or not people will like you, because most people are struggling to like themselves. It’s not their job to like you anyways, it’s yours. When you truly love yourself, other people’s approval...
People will come and go, and you will let them. Some may turn their backs on you, but you won’t turn your back on yourself. You’ll be there, in quiet approval of who you are and how you live your life. You will stand unapologetically, with a smirk on your face, knowing how truly lovable you are. Even if they don't see it.
You don’t need external recognition to know you’re worth it. Your self-worth is non-negotiable. It never was. So embrace it now and forever more.
You are YOU, and that is your superpower. And self-love is your trusty sidekick.
Fall deeper in love with yourself today. And start with the simple act of affirming that you are lovable just as you are. Agree that you will love yourself more, that you will invest time and effort into this relationship with yourself, just as you would in any good relationship.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. Put love and attention into how you feel about yourself. And watch that shit grow and blossom into a beautiful love affair.
Next week I’ll be sharing my steps to fall radically, unconditionally, head over heels in love with yourself.
But this week, I just need you to know that you deserve to be loved. Just as you are.
And that no one can do the job better than you.
Sending love and light to my self love soldiers,
PS - When I truly began to love myself, I began to invest in myself. Schedule time for yourself and do something that YOU love. My book Confessions of an Ex Hot Mess is a great way to spend some QT with yourself, and improve your life while you're at it. You can grab a signed personalized copy by clicking here, or there are ebook versions available on Kindle, Nook, Kobo and iTunes.