How To Deal With A$$holes

Is Someone in Your Life Driving You Crazy? Watch this..

Need More Help to Calm Down?
​Read Below for a Three-Step Peace Procedure:

I've got two points to drive home in this week's blog:
#1: I am not immune to jerks, and despite my best efforts I can get pissed off from time to time.
#2: No person or situation is ever worth us sacrificing our well-being.

This blog is dedicated to someone who pushed my buttons furiously this past week, which forced me to light some incense, meditate, and write/film this blog.

In the past, I would have dealt with this week's stress very differently, but thankfully I've evolved over the past few years and I've developed a solid routine for ditching the drama and getting grounded again in love and peace (which is shared below).

At the end of the day, people are going to hurt our feelings and treat us poorly. We can't control other people, we can only control ourselves. When we feed into other people's poor behavior, we allow our energy to be dragged through the mud, and we feel like crap as a result. 

How do we deal with a$$holes? We don't. We excuse ourselves from their misery (not joining in on it, despite their invite) and we get on with our pleasant, love-filled life. Why waste a single moment of our precious lives pissed off, when we could be focused on all the beautiful things going on all around us? Imagine this was your very last day on Earth.. Would you really want to spend hours of it rolling your eyes and being pissed about someone giving you attitude?

To re-balance your energy and reclaim your peace, light some incense, pour a hot cup of tea, and check out this Three-Step Peace Procedure:

Meditate:
As uncomfortable as silence can be when your mind is racing, focusing on your breathing can help bring your blood pressure down, at least to a rolling boil. I enjoy mantra meditations as it will focus my mind away from the issue, to allow myself to become more peaceful. Try sitting in a comfortable chair and simply repeat, in your mind, the word Peace or Relax. Put all of your energy into this word, and if a thought pops up, simply allow it to pass. There is no right or wrong way to meditate, the idea is simple: slow your breathing, slow your thoughts, and be present.

I do this for about 20 minutes, or until I feel more calm. From that state of mind I find it much easier to sort through the emotions I'm experiencing and take action aligned with my best self.

Ask for Guidance:
My greatest strength has come from my faith. If you can find something bigger than you to believe in, it will change your life forever. As I begin my meditation I will often ask for guidance on a particular issue, and I consciously hand over my stress to God, the Universe, "life-force' (whatever you'd like to call it). I know that I cannot rely on my own strength alone, I've tried that, so I rely on my spiritual guides to help me on my life journey.

On the morning I wrote this blog I asked "please help me deal with this frustration, help me deal with it in a way I can be proud, I need help" and in that instant I saw myself filming a silly video blog that made me laugh called "Dealing with A$$holes" and here we are.

Give Gratitude:
Yes some of the people you deal with are difficult, but let's be grateful for them anyways. I mean, after all, if it wasn't for the contrast of a$$holes, we wouldn't appreciate the relationships we truly love. Plus, if people didn't drive us crazy on occasion what in the heck would we ever talk about? 

​The fastest way into a better mood is by giving gratitude. So make a list of things that you're grateful for. Our health, our friends and family, running water, electricity, the fact that tomorrow is a new day, etc. There are many things we take for granted, and by reminding ourselves of how blessed we are, we can often shift our focus from a negative experience, to the positives.

At the end of the day, no person or situation is worth you sacrificing your well-being. So don't allow their bad mood to rub off on you. Know that most times, people's rude behavior has little to nothing to do with you. We don't know what other people are dealing with, so try your best to forgive them for not being who you wish they would be. Be sure to also forgive yourself if you bought into the BS at first. 

Everyone is doing the very best they can in this life, with the skills, knowledge and awareness that they have. Tomorrow we will know more, so we will do better. Some people will stay in the same rut their entire lives, and they may point their frustration in our direction at some points in time.

It sucks, but know that no one on this planet can hurt you without your permission. You are a strong, magnificent being. You deserve the very best in this life. And if someone is being an a$$hole, walk away, regain your peace, take guided action if required to remedy a situation, and always strive to act as your very best self.

Sending you love, light and patience for a$$holes,
​-L.K.
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