Have you ever noticed it’s the simplest “basic bitch” life lessons that seem to really blow your mind the most?
This is what happened to me over the weekend. I read a lesson from the metaphysical textbook “A Course in Miracles” and the lesson read: “I can choose peace instead of this.” Wow. Drop the mic. This simple wisdom hit me like a spiritual mac truck.
Some of you may be rolling your eyes with a simultaneous ‘duh’, but hear me out.
Yes, this is totally common sense, but how often do we actually choose peace when an easier, more available feeling of stress, anger or fear arise? This weekend I received horrible news about a local hero who after an awe-inspiring bout with cancer, unfortunately passed away. At first, devastation naturally flooded my senses. And don’t get me wrong, we need to embrace all of our emotions, as they come. It’s important to honour what you’re feeling first and foremost. And feel them all the way without distracting yourself for instant gratification of comfort.
The thing about choosing peace is simply knowing that it’s an option, even on your worst of days. That awareness becomes incredibly powerful when you are ready to move on emotionally.
Buddha said it best when he explained that “the root of all suffering is attachment.” We become attached to people, to comfort and to certain outcomes, and when any of those are taken from us be begin to suffer immensely.
Again, things like grief and pain are perfectly natural, and so a simple way to apply this lesson is simply embracing your emotions and not judging them or trying to change them prematurely. By accepting each moment as it comes (the bad news, the inconveniences, the emotional roller coasters) we can avoid some suffering.
And the thing about having that option for peace at any time is that no matter how long you’ve held onto your pain for, no matter how long you’ve been angry with someone, no matter how far you’ve travelled down a path of suffering, you can choose again. You can choose love, hope and happiness any moment of your day.
By accepting what we are experiencing, be it physically or emotionally, we can stop running from our feelings and just feel them instead. Find a healthy way to express your feelings, whether it’s through physical activity or talking it out, and feel it all the way. Feel it until the feeling has subsided on some level, from there you can choose how you want to feel next. Never judge yourself for how you feel or react, because it was supposed to be this way, or it would have been a different way.
Accept the lessons you receive along your path, because even the seemingly awful ones provide us with insights and an opportunity for growth.
I’d like to dedicate this blog to the “Unbreakable Bo” that I mentioned earlier in this blog. Despite years of fighting an uphill battle, he never allowed his cancer to break his spirit. He never gave up, and watching his will to live has inspired me to live each and every day with the same zest for life, and passion for health. We must remember to never take the simple things in life for granted.
Remind yourself every day what a blessing it is to simply wake up each morning with the promise of a new day, it is a privilege denied to many, so make the most of yours today. Do it for those no longer with us today. Love with all your heart. Live with all your courage. Never give up, and live like there’s no tomorrow, because the future is never guaranteed.
I’m sending love, peace and healing to all who need it most right now.