Do you ever wish you could live a life free of disappointment?
What if I told you I had a 100% guaranteed way to eliminate it from you life?
The answer is simple: have zero expectations.
Disappointment is simply a by-product of an expectation that was not met. You expected this, it didn’t happen, and now you’re pissed about it. Think about it, is there any other reason to feel disappointed? Without an expectation, there is no way to feel disappointment.
The tough thing about having zero expectations is this:
Let’s fix that now by talking it through:
Entitlement and Expectations
Being a recovering spoiled, entitled brat myself I am quite the expert on expectations. This explains why I spent much of my twenties stressed and focused on the tiny things going wrong vs all the stuff going amazing. When we have expectations of people, we set them up for failure. We set our relationships up for failure. When we could choose instead to accept the people in our lives, and the things they do. Don’t get me wrong, bad habits are annoying, but most people aren’t willing to change them. So that leaves us with three choices: accept the behaviour, leave the relationship or waste our precious energy nagging every day knowing it will never change. Realizing that you have a choice in the matter is very empowering.
Do I Have Expectations?
Yes, most definitely. And we know we do because we feel disappointment or frustration. We have expectations that people will treat us a certain way, and if they don’t we become angry. We sometimes have expectations of ourselves, and when we don’t act in that certain way we become self-hateful. We have expectations that life should feel like this, and when shit hits the fan we become very disappointed. Challenge time: write down anytime you felt irritated, frustrated or disappointed in the past week or so (get 3-5 examples) and see if you can find the expectation that wasn’t met.
How Do I Live Without You? (Expectations)
The only real problem in our lives is the fact that we don’t believe our life should have problems. Life is not easy, nor should it be. If life was easy and perfect we would not grow/evolve, we would be bored stiff, and we would have no purpose. Learn to embrace the shit. The tough times serves us just as much as the good times. Hardships make the good days seem so much more beautiful in contrast. Struggles force us to grow and evolve into better people. They teach us valuable lessons. They give us something to problem solve and overcome. Life is very easy for those who have no preference on how it goes. It won’t be easy, but try practising acceptance when things don’t go your way, and like a muscle you will get stronger and stronger at that skill over time.
Accept this moment like you have chosen it my dear friends, because on some level, you have. Xo
Sending love, light and peace,