It’s been almost a year since my last blog. I’ve been in hiding. Or perhaps more in searching? Searching for answers, for my truths, for clues in my past and corrections for my future. Searching for myself.

Divorce is icky my friends. It’s messy and unmanageable at times.

On one hand I felt like a fraud for failing in my relationship after preaching that all can be saved in Confessions of an Ex Hot Mess, and on the other hand I felt profound pride in taking the route I did.

Regardless of my outlook, I felt heavily burdened with stress, guilt and uncertainty.

I needed to take time away to reassess, and to heal myself before I attempted to help others.

This relationship question intrigued me enough to get back in the blog game. To bare my soul again, in the most vulnerable time in my life. I think it’s an important conversation. I feel it goes with and against everything I thought I believed. And I hope it will serve you, if you’re struggling in your relationships, too.

There is no reason you can't be over-the-moon happy right now. Yup, I said it. No matter if you just won a billion dollars or you're filing for bankruptcy. Whether you've got a new fling, or in the midst of a divorce.

Just like pain doesn't discriminate, neither does happiness. Just as there are two sides of a coin, there are two sides of our lives: empowering and disempowering. We can choose happiness even when we aren't getting what we want in our lives.

​This video is going to explain the first step in making this concept a reality for you:
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Who is ready to give this a try this week? Comment below to make it known.

Sending love & light,
​-L.K.

Pain in life is inevitable, but suffering is optional. We suffer from stress all the time, and the good news is I've got 3 questions to help stop stress forever.

Often we need to adjust our lens to see the bigger picture, we need to get honest about our role in the stress, and we need to shift our perception to the positive. 

Watch the video below for the three questions to help crush your current stress:
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Can you think of other questions that help you relieve your stress? Mention them in the comments below.

Sending love & light,
​-L.K.

No baby was ever born insecure. We don't come out of the womb hating our bodies. So why is it so hard to feel good enough, complete and whole?

Some may say it's our parents, or the people who hurt us along our lifetime, but perhaps there's a larger situation at play.

Watch this week's video to see why you're feeling insecure and then make the choice of who you want your beliefs to benefit:
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Your belief system is another person's profit centre, so take control of your thoughts and decide today that you are good enough as-is.

Sending love & light,
​-L.K.

Do you ever wonder why it's so damn hard to be happy sometimes? It's like no matter what is going good in our lives, there is always something bringing us away from that joy and stressing us out.

The reason this happens is because our brain is not designed to make us happy, it's designed with one simple mission in mind: survival.

And in order to survive, our brain (think million year ago hardware) insists on seeking out the "dangers" in our lives. It's constantly scanning the perimeter for any risks or foreseeable problems in the future. Back in the day, it was looking out for sabre-toothed tigers, today it settles for the risk of rejection, fear of failure and stranger danger.

To stop the cycle of over-thinking and constantly focusing on the sh*t in life, watch this week's video and try this instead:
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Sending love & light,
​-L.K.

Everyone loves to dress up and pretend we are someone else for the day, but does that trend really end when Halloween is over and the pumpkins are put away?

Unfortunately many of us grew up experiencing "conditional love" which made us believe we had to be a certain way to be lovable. This totally whack belief results in us wearing masks long after Halloween is over.

I spent most of my life as a "social chameleon" magically transforming into whatever I felt the crowd I was with would enjoy.

This left me feeling so empty because I never knew if they liked the real me, or just the person I was pretending to be. I sold myself out for a hit of that externally-validating acceptance. But by earning it the way I did, I failed to see the most important person who wasn't accepting me was: me!

Check out this week's video, grab some candy corn and let's be sure to leave the masks behind on Nov 1st!

Sending love, light & self-acceptance,
​-L.K.

Just as we can become habitually happy, we too can become habitually un-happy.

The thing about changing our habits is, we can't just quit a habit. If you want to quit smoking, you'll have to replace that disempowering habit with an empowering habit. Same goes for this nasty little habit, which robs us of our joy.

Think of ways that you can trade your disempowering habits with more empowering ones, practise every day, and be kind and supportive while you make the adjustments.

You wouldn't tell baby to quit after many failed attempts at learning to walk, so why be so hard on yourself when you're learning something new?

Check out this week's video on what exactly is stealing our joy:
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Remember, no one CAN compare to you. You are you and that is your superpower. So stop wasting precious energy comparing your apples to their oranges. Comparison is the thief of joy, so if you're feeling a little low on joy, you know where to find it.

Sending love, light, and no comparisons,
​-L.K.
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    This is a habit we are all guilty of, and one that is robbing us of our happiness.

Soon, I'll be launching my online course Hot Mess to Happiness (stay tuned!!) but in the meantime, I'll be featuring different tips for bringing more happiness into your life, often by taking specific things (& habits) out of it.

This week we are discussing the burden of holding on for too long: to people, to stress, to resentment. To it all. And how it wreaks havoc on our happiness.

Let's vow this week to let go of as much junk as possible. Anything that is not serving us and our happiest llfe.

This week's video is starring my prized possession: my pink 3L water bottle.

I hope you enjoy, and if you have any questions (or ideas for future blogs) please comment down below.
​-L.K.

Life is short, and when you get to the end of the line, how will you feel about your life; if you continue on as you are?

What will be your legacy? What will people remember about you?
Did you achieve your dreams? Will you have regrets?

This week I'm talking about one mistake you don't want to make.

​Check out the video and comment down below with your thoughts.

Sending love & light,
​-L.K.

I've been busy whipping up one hell of an online course for your beautiful souls, so I've been falling a little behind on the blogging. {sorry!}

This course is going to create a radical shift in your life, and help teach you how to bring an unshakeable happiness into your life.

But this is a big task, and sometimes huge change can be a little freaky.

So I wanted to share this video with you. It's a little vintage, but the message is still golden.

Changing any area of your life can be as simple or as complicated as you choose for it to be.

For me, I like to focus on this simple concept: one day at a time.

Somedays when the shift seems too much, I will focus on one hour at a time, or even one minute at a time, if need be.

It's all about those small "right" actions that will take you towards the life of your dreams. Bruce Lee said "long-term consistency trumps short-term consistency" so we've got to begin our transformation with tiny adjustments. Things that are sustainable for as long as it takes to achieve the goal.

​This is why fad diets don't work. Not sustainable.

So pick one little action you can take today that will bring you closer to your goal, and do it every damn day. And in time, when that little action is second nature, add another, and another and another. 

Eventually, your habits will have changed so drastically over x amount of time, that it is inevitable that your life will follow suit and transform for the better too!

So what is one thing you can do that will bring you closer to the life of your dreams?

Do you have any questions? Be sure to put them in the comment box below, I'd love to hear from you!

Sending love & light,
​-L.K.